Parenting (what I want)

So im just going to dive right into causing problems and make my first real post be about parenting. The first thing that came to my mind when I saw those double lines wasn't money or space It was "am I ready to be a good parent". like any practically still teenager I had a long list of things I didn't want to do. but then I relized I was looking at the picture backwards who cares what you dont want thats like asking someone what they want for dinner and hearing not eggplant well thanks that narrows it right down to oh yeah several thousand other options.

So this Is my list of things I do want to do.

Teach not Preach - I will teach my children I will teach them respect and responsibility common sense and common courtesy I will teach them to love to forgive and to fight and so much more. Teaching is a parents main duty but preaching is not. The fastest way to get someone to ignore you is to force them to listen my child is a person to be guided not a sheep to be herded.

A firm hand is not always a heavy hand- Sometimes more can be accomplished with much much less punishments should fit the crime not my anger if I know I'm not making a clear decision I need to step back. I still remember being a kid having to wait is sometimes worse then any switch or grounding thats when you know you've gone and done it this time.

Listen and Answer- My kid wont be in control but that also doesn't mean they shouldn't have a say. If they have no input or options or decisions to make then they don't learn to function on their own. my kids may not always get the answer they want but they will get one and not because I said so.

Be There- When my kid needs someone I hope that they will know it can be me. When they are little I want to want to hear about buzz lightyear or whatever enthralls children these days and when they are older I want to be the one who knows which girl/boy they like which teachers suck and so much more.   

Build them up- I want my kid to know im proud of them even when they make stupid decisions and deserve to have their head ripped off they will know im still proud of them. mostly I want them to know that they should never be ashamed of themselves.

Think Child- I would rather argue with a teen who can think for them selves then watch them blindly follow friends to the grave because they were taught to follow without question. Respect and obedience does not equal stupidity and naivety. If there is anything I impart to my kid it should be to freaking think.  

Do- dont be the mom that talks about going camping Go freaking camping go to the park make a cardboard robot study ants. IDK what it is but I will be doing things with my kid every moment is a moment to learn experience and enjoy. I never want to be the mom that's to busy on farmville to go outside. 

Manners Child- I dont care if my kid decides to be a little goth punk he will say thank you he will hold doors for others he will respect a female even if she doesnt deserve it and he dang better never ever cock back on me or mommy will pull his little skinny jeans down and whip him with his own wallet chain.

This is the kind of parent I want to be Maybe to harsh for some Maybe to hippy for other maybe even a bit unrealistic when it comes to actually raising a child. But its what Im going to strive for its the kind of parenting I think will work. Its the kind of parent I will be proud of myself if I even come close to being.